What is it to explore and continue to find your own alone-ness?
Many people in relationship are trying to remain themselves. Both lovers are related and yet independent and hence often a struggle arise. They forget to discuss their values, aspirations and activities or ideas and may become resentful.
What can we do: Giving time, encouraging, letting go of the other.
Don’t be your partners missing piece, or them yours. LoveWorks Tantra sessions builds skills for intimacy and passion plus valuing and nurturing polarity. This maintains the space for the spark to be charged!
These are musings…
Skills to assist
Mindfulness and meditation
Authentic and respectful communication
Discussed values and boundaries
And sharing pleasures with your partner.
more to come…
Have you had enough of alienation, Has enough of wasting Love making time, Do you want some coaching to open and reignite a truly passionate love life?
Where is the human connection you really want ?
It’s interesting with us humans, that most of us are vulnerable to some for of addiction, whether mild or heavy duty which we try to ignore, or pass over as just a little or big indulgence.
And the easiness of wasting time and scrolling and looking at our screens for minutes, then then some how turn into hours.
We ignore what we waste our precious life on.
Most of us are aware of the dopamine reward cycle of face book and the reward of another like!!
Human Connection depends on the warmth of touch,
the sound or vibrations of voice,
the harmony of sharing breath.
these too, trigger dopamine, sooth our inner selves, help regular our hormornes, our sleep cycle, inspire and underwrite our well being.
Take the challenge and Ban you phones from the bedroom for a week.
Wake with just yourself to start the day. Asking yourself ‘what will the day bring you?’ “what can you bring to your day and your world?’
With your lover, in bed, take a few moments to eye gaze, and in your own ways say good morning!
By Lucy Fisher Featured writer for Australian School of Tantra ( with Diane Riley)
Dating Aps: As a single 30 – something woman looking for love, I can’t help but observe a rapidly changing climate in the dating aps world. Beneath the fun, frivolous, commitment free, variety filled veneer of modern dating, lies a darker reality of a growing epidemic. The expedient use of dating apps and social media portals is taking its toll on interpersonal relating in an alarmingly inconspicuous manner, well at least to the majority. The volume of choice and vast opportunity for fast, easy casual sex or even “sexting” is seeing a decline in foundational aspects of dating.
We have somehow managed to completely bypass the whole “getting to know you“ stage of meeting someone new, to the “dick pic” and “what are you wearing now “ phase . The great deficit in intimacy and connection that has become the new norm in dating protocol, isn’t just a frustrating side affect of the technological age of dating , but a detrimental one , resulting in the nullification of personal growth, mature communication and intimacy.! !
Although one could argue that casual dating isn’t anything new, it has definitely transcended to unparalleled heights of convenience, superficiality, disconnection and disposal, that arbours greater overall consequences than we really like to pay attention to. Sure, we are all busy, just trying to get our needs met and ticking it off on our “to do” list, right? but connections created immediacy, self satisfaction and convenience, leaves us soulfully, energetically and emotionally undernourished . This can be hard to detect in our day to day lives, as we heavily busy ourselves with endless distraction, avoiding any time and space in which we may actually stop, sit and reflect upon the needs of our hungry soul.! !
Jen Kim writes about how in modern dating life, we no longer have the feeling of scarcity, as there are always so many options at our fingertips. This doesn’t just make us picky, but arguably unreasonably so. “How quickly have we thumbed left simply because the face peering back at us had an eyebrow hair out of place or because the guy seemed short even though you could only see his head?” she writes. “How many amazing potential mates have we missed out on because we were convinced the next profile would be better?” In the end, attraction is about more than just a photo. It’s more than just an instant spark on a first date, or a Valentine’s Day card. Ultimately, while dating apps bring us closer to people we might not otherwise have met, the issues they cause paradoxically make it even more difficult to make a connection. To avoid falling in the maximising trap, if you think you’ve met someone and it could be something good, try and give it a fair chance. Otherwise you might be holding out for a fairytale that could never happen.
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Tantra Love is about expanding and deepening our life. Tantra is deepening connections to love, and our flow of love inwardly and outwardly. Tantra love encourages presence and conscious relating. Tantra love combines soulfulness, relationship and sexuality , and is a guide to live life passionately, with love and with presence.
Living with a tantric intention offers us opportunities to see ourselves, ( as we really are: the good, the bad and the ugly) so we can honour our imperfections, forgive ourselves and others and nurture and expand into our ‘higher Better versions of our selves’.
Australian School of Tantra offers Teacher Training plus Couples and Individual Coaching.
When you learn tantric massage it has the potential for you to give your man more pleasure
than he has ever experienced before. He may have had a massage before,
but not like the one you are about to give him. Traditional masseurs avoid
our most pleasurable parts, but as a beloved you can learn tantric massage. But this time, the focus is on the whole of the
body and his wand of light is definitely part of that.
When you learn tantric massage your partner is going to love the experience. It will help shift the focus of his sexual experience from purely genital to an overall feeling of bliss on many levels. Not only will it be sensational for your partner, you will also thoroughly enjoy giving it. It will open you up to new experiences
because it will give you a sense of power. You will be orchestrating his
pleasure and initiating him into new areas of sexuality.
In ancient times, Aphrodite’s priestesses would welcome men
home from the ravages of war and, through similar practices, heal their
trauma and renew them, preparing them to re-enter civilised society once
more.When you learn tantric massage it helps charging in physical energy which
rushes pulsing through the body and revitalizes heart and mind.
First, set your bedroom ambiance: music, lighting, temperature and
refreshments. Be sure to reserve this time for his pleasure; let him relax; he
doesn’t have to do anything except receive your attention and your love.
For many men, to hear that all they need to do is to enjoy their woman’s
loving attention is a dream come true!
Chose your clothing as in supporting you being an ‘initiator’. For some
women, this can mean lacy underwear, for others it could be transparent
scarves and beads, for others still, maybe black leather.
Have massage oils prepared, a towel, warm water and, if you have one, a
massage table. Check to see you have everything ready so that you don’t
have to be distracted or keep getting up to find something.
After you learn tantric massage prepare your partner. Perhaps scrub his back in the bath and towel him
down. You could offer him his favourite food or drink and provide some…
From ‘Sexy and Sacred, sexual secrets for women’.. by Diane Riley
Slow Sex! Slow down…!!!!!!! yum… why be in such a hurry ??? Slow Sex and sacred sex | Are you in a Hurry | Are you feeling Rushed ? Why go too fast slow down and enjoy what you are rushing away from ? Are you focused on ‘cumming’, on doing it good, on doing it right ? Right for who ? for yourself, getting to the glorious destination! letting him or her know you are super sexy. Perhaps you’re on fast bullet train but you arrive too early!
Slow Sex : take a breath or two together, take a chance and feel the love from touch, scent, taste, sound, sight.
Take a risk and slow down, meet your partners gaze, open your eyes and say i love you, I love your scent!!! I love your taste !!! I love your touch and the feel of you… I love the sound of you!!! feel the connection, the melting of boundaries, are you ready not to go fasted but to explore deeper and wider, Tantra calls it expansion!! expansion beyond self, beyond the ordinary, and into each other, expansion beyond’ ‘me’ and ‘other’ into the unknown of ‘us’ and this is the unknown.. the adventure.
Many people ask me how to do this…??? May practice being ‘slow’ taking a slow walk, eating your breakfast or dinner and chewing each mouthful 50 times…
You may not have the time for this as you have so many things to do…Work, children, friends, DEVICES! However what is more important than sharing love and pleasures with your lover ?
For a start try a practice I call
Move your thoughts to something you like, lose yourself in that sensation, breathe in and imagine your whole body as an extension of that pleasure. Imagine your enjoyment is going into every cell of your body. Think of moments of the “pleasure” being like droplets of water being absorbed by your entire body. I call this drinking deeply of the experience…
Lingam, what is the meaning in the 21st Century?
In western tantra ‘ Lingam’ is referring to the male ‘wand of light’,
Does this have any reference to modern day lovers who practice ‘lingam honouring’ or ‘lingam massage’ ??
First lets look at what has been written, Subhamoy Das is a former journalist and communications professional based in India.
In the post-Vedic period, the Linga became symbolical of the generative power of Lord Shiva.
However Early Hinduism talks of it is only the outward symbol of the formless being.
Linga signifies that the creation is effected by the union of ‘Prakriti’ and ‘Purusha,’ the male and the female powers of Nature. Linga also signifies ‘Satya,’ ‘Jnana’ and ‘Ananta’ – Truth, knowledge, and Infinity.
Lord Shiva, who is the undying soul seated in the chambers of your heart, who is your in-dweller, your innermost self or ‘Atman,’ and who is identical with the supreme ‘Brahman.’
The Linga Purana’s ideas incorporate, states Stella Kramrisch, those of the Samkhya school of Hindu philosophy.The chapter 1.17 of the Linga Purana introduces Linga as Pradhana or Prakriti (cosmic substance), while Shiva is described as Lingin, or one with this “subtle body”. Linga is presented by the text as an abstract concept, contrasted with Alinga (Vyakta), along with its phallic significance and sexual truth in nature’s process of life creation.
The verses of Linga Purana, states Kramrisch, presents Linga as an an iconic symbol of both the matter and the spirit, the Prakriti and the Purusha, whereby the “powers of creation, liberation and annihilation” are symbolized by the icon.
Find out more how knowing about Lingam in a modern day tantric context can bring more passion and union to your relationship.
Being a good lover isn’t easy. With more freedom, knowledge and body awareness, today’s woman knows better than to settle for predictable, performance based sex. ‘Sexual Secrets for Men’ provides everything a man needs to know to satisfy a woman’s physical, emotional and spiritual yearnings in a sexual relationship-and how to bring him to new heights of ecstasy in the process.
Learn about your magic in your LINGAM!
~ Living the Dance: using Arts Therapies to Enhance our Lives ~
Next event: Women’s Weekend Workshop
Moving Menopause: Enhancing the Journey
~ An open and heartful enquiry into the passage of menopause ~
Utilising a range of modalities such as naturally expressive movement and dance, pastels, clay, writing, body-sense and mindfulness skills.
Saturday 17th and Sunday 18th October 2015
with Satyo Cate Sullivan at Leela Cottage, Robertson, Southern Highlands
Menopause is often a taboo topic or something to be dreaded and endured. There is much more to it than that. This workshop is about embracing menopause as a richly meaningful part of our lives, going beyond the myths and exploring its possibilities as a time of transformation. Amidst the sometimes tumultuous changes new potentials can be born. This weekend is for all women – younger women, those approaching, in the midst of, and those moving, or who have moved, beyond menopause.
More fully embracing and celebrating this life’s passage:
v Enquire into themes such as: Meaning and significance of this phase of life for you ~~ Completions and Openings ~~ Self-care ~~ The nitty gritty and the good bits ~~ A time in life for YOU ~~ Opportunities to release, renew, bring forth ~~ Sexuality ~~ Fresh beginnings ~~ What is important now? ~~
v Experience: A reshaping of the concept of menopause ~~ A deepening sense of what being in the feminine is about ~~ A weekend of being richly companioned ~~ Creative and rewarding explorations ~~ A gathering of wisdom ~~ Time out and space for you ~~
v Take away with you: A new valuing of this part of your life’s journey ~~ Your own wiser understandings ~~ An enhanced sense of who you are as a woman at this time of life ~~
“I have been facilitating women’s retreats and courses for 25 years. Words that might describe how they can be are….meaningful, joyous, potent, deep, transformative, nurturing, inspiring, rich, moving, fun, belonging, supportive……Something special happens when a group of women come together in this way to explore a significant theme about our life’s journey. In a deeply respectful space each of us can follow our own individual enquiry while feeling inspired by, and connected with, others. We take away with us more sense of creativity, strength and trust in our own wondrous feminine nature.” (No former experience is needed)
About Satyo: Satyo Cate Sullivan (BCA., MA (Cat). PACFA reg.) works as a psychotherapist and creative arts/dance therapist in the Shoalhaven and Southern Highlands.
When: Saturday 17th October, 9.30 – 5.30pm and Sunday 18th October, 9.30 – 4.30pm. To Book: Full payment or 50% to C. Sullivan, BSB 062 585 Account no. 0022 1907. Or send cheque to C. Sullivan, PO Box 3381, Robertson, 2577 Maximum number in workshop – 8 women. Price of Workshop: – $230 EARLY BIRD: $200 – received by October 2nd. (One or two concession prices.) Enquiries and Bookings: Satyo on 0412 122010. Email: email@example.com Website: http://satyosullivan.com
Tantra is quickly becoming accepted as a respected and useful philosophy as a tool to enhance relationships and sexuality. Tantric teachers Kerry and Diane Riley of the Australian School of Tantra were interviewed by the Sydney Morning Herald as Sydney’s leading authority on Tantra. Tantric teachers for many years, the Riley’s have a deep understanding of the concerns and pressures of modern relationship especially those living in the city.
‘Often people are having it all, demanding careers plus relationships and children! Tantric sexuality offers insights into the ‘man woman dynamic’ on an emotional and sexual level.’ explains Diane. ‘Tantric love emphasises daily connections, simple tantric harmonising processes for rebalancing libido and amplifying passion, at whatever age. Throw out the sexual enhancing drugs and try Tantra skills instead!’ Kerry encourages men of all ages 18 – 80 to exercise their PC muscles as the fundamental technique for life long sexual health. ‘Whether a man wants to learn ejaculation control or to strengthened his virility the PC muscle is important. Learn the tantric skills about this muscle and you will be able to make love for as long as you choose.
Kerry and Diane each tantra courses and workshops around Australia, in Perth, Sydney, Melbourne, and Byron Bay.
Their extensive and growing tantric educational books, videos, DVD’s and courses have proved to be authorative and of great value.