Slow Sex

Slow Sex!  Slow down…!!!!!!!  yum… why be in such a hurry ??? Slow Sex and sacred sex | Are you in a Hurry | Are you feeling Rushed ? Why go too fast slow down and enjoy what you are rushing away from ? Are you focused on ‘cumming’, on doing it good, on doing it right ? Right for who ? for yourself, getting to the glorious destination! letting him or her know you are super sexy.  Perhaps you’re on fast bullet train but you arrive too early!

Slow Sex :  take a breath or two together, take a chance and feel the love from touch, scent, taste, sound, sight.

Take a risk and slow down, meet your partners gaze, open your eyes and say i love you, I love your scent!!! I love your taste !!! I love your touch and the feel of you… I love the sound of you!!! feel the connection, the melting of boundaries, are you ready not to go fasted but to explore deeper and wider, Tantra calls it expansion!! expansion beyond self, beyond the ordinary, and into each other, expansion beyond’ ‘me’ and ‘other’ into the unknown of ‘us’ and this is the unknown.. the adventure.

Slow Sex can be  the adventure into the beyond…

Many people ask me how to do this…??? May practice being ‘slow’ taking a slow walk, eating your breakfast or dinner and chewing each mouthful 50 times…

You may not have the time for this as you have so many things to do…Work, children, friends, DEVICES! However what is more important than sharing love and pleasures with your lover ?

For a start try a practice I call

Slow Sex and Drinking deeply

Move your thoughts to something you like, lose yourself in that sensation, breathe in and imagine your whole body as an extension of that pleasure.  Imagine your enjoyment is going into every cell of your body.  Think of moments of the “pleasure” being like droplets of water being absorbed by your entire body.  I call this drinking deeply of the experience…

Women’s Menopause Weekend Workshop

~ Living the Dance: using Arts Therapies to Enhance our Lives ~

Next event: Women’s Weekend Workshop

Moving Menopause:  Enhancing the Journey  

~ An open and heartful enquiry into the passage of menopause ~

 Utilising  a range of modalities such as naturally expressive movement and dance, pastels, clay,  writing, body-sense and mindfulness skills.

Saturday 17^th and Sunday 18^th October 2015

with Satyo Cate Sullivan at Leela Cottage, Robertson, Southern Highlands

Menopause is often a taboo topic or something to be dreaded and endured.  There is much more to it than that.  This workshop is about embracing menopause as a richly meaningful part of our lives, going beyond the myths and exploring its possibilities as a time of transformation.  Amidst the sometimes tumultuous changes new potentials can be born.  This weekend is for all women – younger women, those approaching, in the midst of, and those moving, or who have moved, beyond menopause. 

 More fully embracing and celebrating this life’s passage:

v  Enquire into themes such as:   Meaning and significance of this phase of life for you ~~  Completions and Openings  ~~  Self-care  ~~  The nitty gritty and the good bits  ~~  A time in life for YOU  ~~  Opportunities to release, renew, bring forth  ~~  Sexuality  ~~  Fresh beginnings   ~~  What is important now?  ~~

v  Experience:   A reshaping of the concept of menopause ~~  A deepening sense of what being in the feminine is about  ~~  A weekend of being richly companioned  ~~  Creative and rewarding explorations  ~~  A gathering of wisdom  ~~  Time out and space for you  ~~

v  Take away with you:   A new valuing of this part of your life’s journey  ~~  Your own wiser understandings ~~ An enhanced sense of who you are as a woman at this time of life  ~~  

About Satyo:  Satyo Cate Sullivan _{(BCA., MA (Cat). PACFA reg.)} works as a psychotherapist and creative arts/dance therapist in the Shoalhaven and Southern Highlands.

When:  Saturday 17^th October, 9.30 – 5.30pm and Sunday 18^th October, 9.30 – 4.30pm.  To Book: Full payment or 50% to C. Sullivan, BSB 062 585 Account no. 0022 1907.   Or send cheque to  C. Sullivan, PO Box 3381, Robertson, 2577   Maximum number in workshop – 8 women.   Price of Workshop: – $230   EARLY BIRD: $200 – received by October 2nd.    (One or two concession prices.)                                                   Enquiries and Bookings: Satyo on 0412 122010. Email: satyo@shoal.net.au   Website:  http://satyosullivan.com

Sydney Morning Herald Article

Tantra is quickly becoming accepted as a respected and useful philosophy as a tool to enhance relationships and sexuality. Tantric teachers Kerry and Diane Riley of the Australian School of Tantra were interviewed by the Sydney Morning Herald as Sydney’s leading authority on Tantra. Tantric teachers for many years, the Riley’s have a deep understanding of the concerns and pressures of modern relationship especially those living in the city.

‘Often people are having it all, demanding careers plus relationships and children! Tantric sexuality offers insights into the ‘man woman dynamic’ on an emotional and sexual level.’ explains Diane. ‘Tantric love emphasises daily connections, simple tantric harmonising processes for rebalancing libido and amplifying passion, at whatever age. Throw out the sexual enhancing drugs and try Tantra skills instead!’ Kerry encourages men of all ages 18 – 80 to exercise their PC muscles as the fundamental technique for life long sexual health. ‘Whether a man wants to learn ejaculation control or to strengthened his virility the PC muscle is important. Learn the tantric skills about this muscle and you will be able to make love for as long as you choose.

Kerry and Diane each tantra courses and workshops around Australia, in Perth, Sydney, Melbourne, and Byron Bay.

Their extensive and growing tantric educational books, videos, DVD’s and courses have proved to be authorative and of great value.

Article from The Australian

Tantric sex practices offer a variety of sexual styles, from the dynamic fast, often a form of the quickie, to the slow and sensual. Tantra encourages tantric lovers to expand their lovemaking and ask lovers to dialogue with each other and include new ways of lovemaking. The Sydney Australian interviewed Kerry and Diane Riley, founders of the Australian School of Tantra, in Sydney, about tantric sexuality in their issue “In Praise of Slow’ which is a world trend to find more enjoyment and peace in our frantic lives by consciously slowing down everyday tasks like cooking – slow cooking- and of course sex. Slow sex, imagine hours of sensual slow pleasure! Some would say yes!!! Others may think, it may be boring after 10 minutes. However tantra offers lovers many tantric skills and techniques to expand loving pleasure to become one of the richest sexual experience. Outlined below is a tantric practice, Karenza, add it to your tantric skills.

Do you feel in a hurry?

Slow Sex –
‘Keep attentive on the fire at the beginning and so continuing to avoid the embers at the end.’ Osho
Slowing down deepens connection Increases your capacity to love and be loved Focus on your breath, this keeps you in the moment.

More on Slow Sex

Try Karenza

Try being together in genital contact where there is no movement for fifteen to twenty minutes. Move only if the erection should slacken. The emphasis is on connecting lovingly; the mood is warm and tender. The trick here is to keep focusing your mind on the pleasure and, to feel this; there is no necessity to move. This method of lovemaking is sometimes called Karenza , which is an Italian word meaning caress. In Karenza, you are making love without an expectation, other than enjoyment, sharing and loving. The pressure for orgasm does not dictate the pace or the outcome of the lovemaking.

 Sydney Australian

Tantric experts Kerry and Diane Riley of the Australian School of Tantra were interviewed for the Australian, in the road test issue. Topical areas in modern city life were selected and of course Tantra sex was included and Diane and Kerry Riley were interviewed.

Tantra is no longer a way out hippie airy fairy pursuit. Tantra is becoming recognised for what insights, skills and techniques it has to offer couples and singles to the broader questions of love and sexuality. It’s not just about multiple or extended orgasm. Tantra includes tantric loving skills of body, heart and soul. The tantric lessons have been distilled by Kerry and Diane Riley in their home tantra study course. It includes a tantra 80 page workbook and 8 tantric lessons on MPS. in this way men, women and couples can read, practice and integrate tantric lovemaking and heart intimacy skills to enrich and enlivens their loving practices.

Tantra for women: 

Tantric lovers cultivate emotional intimacy, and this is what most women say they want more of. Tantra has many ways to establish and nurture deeper heart connections The other area of interest is improving and expanding sexual pleasure and of orgasms. Tantric skills and tantric techniques provide a path for a loving journey together.

 Tantra for men: 

Sexually men face two major difficulties in their lives. Number 1 is coming too soon, leaving their woman frustrated and the man disappointed. Number 2 is not being able to make love when your woman wants to because you can’t get an erection, leaving your woman disappointed and your self image devastated.

 Tantra gives you the secrets and practices of how to solve these difficulties and includes:

• making love as long as you choose
• the importance and benefits of ejaculation control
• learning to receive
• why do men come so quickly.

Tantra sex can produce heat and therefore sweat. Sweat, after all is a natural body fluid and as tantra teaches ‘the body is our temple’ and all that is of the body is sacred! Even sweat!

Tantric sweat is attractive! You can influence the smell of sweat so that it is not a turn off, but a tantric turn on!

How can I do this? Many students ask me, and you may know you are what you eat and this especially applies to your sweat. Eat meat and more meat and processed sugary foods and you get foul sweat. Eat vegetables, grains and lots of fragrant herbs and your tantric sweat will be delicious!’

‘For women there’s nothing like the smell of a man’s sweat. Androstadienone is a male chemical signal found concentrated in men’s sweat. Researchers measured levels of the hormone cortisol in the saliva of females after they took 20 sniffs from a jar of androstadienone. Cortisol is secreted by the body to help maintain proper arousal and sense of well-being, respond to stress and other functions. Cortisol levels in the women who smelled androstadienone shot up within roughly 15 minutes and stayed elevated for up to an hour. Consistent with previous research, the women also reported improved mood, higher sexual arousal, and had increased blood pressure, heart rate and breathing.

For comparison’s sake, women also smelled baking yeast, which did not trigger the same effects. So forget your high priced cologne guys, turn up to your next date with a nice sweat going and just let the rest happen.’

Source: Journal of Neuroscience

Tantric lovers take note ! Tantric lovers will bath together or better still lovingly bath each other to ready themselves for tantric sweaty love.  Drink peppermint tea, eat lemongrass and Thai basil in your food for a week or two and notice the difference.

Diane Riley 2008

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Tantra Sex workshops and lessons include many tantric lovemaking skills.

Tantra connection 1

Eyes wide open

Most people shut their eyes while making love and enter their own space. Of course, it can be really nice. But, to feel more love, it helps to look into your partner’s eyes. Your eyes are the windows to your soul. Look into your partner’s eyes as he gazes into yours — tell each other how much you enjoy and love one another, how precious they are to you. This is the second thing you can do to create more heartfelt feelings while making love; talk to your partner, share your innermost feelings of love.

Men, especially, find it difficult to get the feelings of love during lovemaking because all of their energy gets caught in their genitals. It’s easy for men to feel sensation in their penis: the challenge becomes getting that sensation in their heart as well, so that the heat of their genitals resonates with the warmth in their heart. This is the difference between a good lover and an extraordinary lover.

Tantra sex teacher Kerry wisely advises men in his Sexual Secrets for Men‘it’s not the number of strokes you can do with your lingam but how much love you can send with your ‘wand of light’ that makes the difference.’ You can help your man to learn this skill by practising the things I have suggested in this chapter.
However, as some men find the intimacy exercise extremely confronting, here is a practice that will give him this skill physically without having do the ‘other’ exercises. Most men we have surveyed find this the most enjoyable and easiest to do.

Tantric connection 2

Heart-lingam connect

Have him lie down on his back as you sit between his legs. Then, pleasure his lingam (you could use some of the magic strokes already suggested), or give him oral sex until he is fully erect and charged with energy. Have him open his eyes, then put one hand over his lingam and the other hand on his heart centre. Make eye contact, talk to him and tell him you love him. This helps to connect the pleasure and passion he feels in his genitals to the warmth in his heart and intensifies his feeling of love for you.

Also try running your palm from his genitals along to his heart centre then through to his shoulders and down to his hands. Do this in long, sweeping strokes, one hand after the other, for five or six strokes. Breathe in deeply as you stroke up to his heart and breathe out as you take it down his arms.
Ask him to follow your breathing — this helps to lift the sexual energy away from the genitals to the heart and upper body. You can also use a sweeping stroke down his thighs. Your hands can help create pathways, not only for the energy to flow to his heart and upper body, but also through his lower body and feet. Once a man develops this connection with his heart, then during lovemaking, all you need do is simply reach out and touch his heart centre. It will act as a reminder for him to get in touch with his love, not just his performance.

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