Connecting deeper vs phone use

….This spills over into on going relationships. How much phone use do you do? Does your partner do?

Have you had enough of alienation, Has enough of wasting Love  making time, Do you want some coaching to open and reignite a truly passionate love life?

Where is the human connection you really want ?

It’s interesting with us humans, that most of us are vulnerable to some for of addiction, whether mild or heavy duty which we try to ignore, or pass over as just a little or big indulgence.

And the easiness of wasting time and scrolling and looking at our screens for minutes, then then some how turn into hours.

We ignore what we waste our precious life on.

Most of us are aware of the dopamine reward cycle of face book and the reward of another like!!

Human Connection depends on the warmth of touch,

the sound or vibrations of voice,

the harmony of sharing breath.

these too, trigger dopamine, sooth our inner selves, help regular our hormornes, our sleep cycle, inspire and underwrite our well being.

Take the challenge and Ban you phones from the bedroom for a week.

Wake with just yourself to start the day. Asking yourself ‘what will the day bring you?’ “what can you bring to your day and your world?’

With your lover, in bed, take a few moments to eye gaze, and in your own ways say good morning!

Take time out and learn some LoveScience and Tantra Skills!!!

Addicted you your phone when you would rather make love?

Sacred sexuality | Intimate connection | Dating Aps

By Lucy Fisher Featured writer for Australian School of Tantra  ( with Diane Riley)

Dating Aps: As a single 30 – something woman looking for love, I can’t help but observe a rapidly changing climate in the dating aps world. Beneath the fun, frivolous, commitment free, variety filled veneer of modern dating, lies a darker reality of a growing epidemic. The expedient use of dating apps and social media portals is taking its toll on interpersonal relating in an alarmingly inconspicuous manner, well at least to the majority. The volume of choice and vast opportunity for fast, easy casual sex or even “sexting” is seeing a decline in foundational aspects of dating.

What has happened ?

We have somehow managed to completely bypass the whole “getting to know you“ stage of meeting someone new, to the “dick pic” and “what are you wearing now “ phase . The great deficit in intimacy and connection that has become the new norm in dating protocol, isn’t just a frustrating side affect of the technological age of dating , but a detrimental one , resulting in the nullification of personal growth, mature communication and intimacy.! !

Casual Dating a convenience?

Although one could argue that casual dating isn’t anything new, it has definitely transcended to unparalleled heights of convenience, superficiality, disconnection and disposal, that arbours greater overall consequences than we really like to pay attention to. Sure, we are all busy, just trying to get our needs met and ticking it off on our “to do” list, right? but connections created immediacy, self satisfaction and convenience, leaves us soulfully, energetically and emotionally undernourished . This can be hard to detect in our day to day lives, as we heavily busy ourselves with endless distraction, avoiding any time and space in which we may actually stop, sit and reflect upon the needs of our hungry soul.! !

How can we make Lovework? 

In a blog post about this for Psychology Today,

Jen Kim writes about how in modern dating life, we no longer have the feeling of scarcity, as there are always so many options at our fingertips. This doesn’t just make us picky, but arguably unreasonably so. “How quickly have we thumbed left simply because the face peering back at us had an eyebrow hair out of place or because the guy seemed short even though you could only see his head?” she writes. “How many amazing potential mates have we missed out on because we were convinced the next profile would be better?” In the end, attraction is about more than just a photo. It’s more than just an instant spark on a first date, or a Valentine’s Day card. Ultimately, while dating apps bring us closer to people we might not otherwise have met, the issues they cause paradoxically make it even more difficult to make a connection. To avoid falling in the maximising trap, if you think you’ve met someone and it could be something good, try and give it a fair chance. Otherwise you might be holding out for a fairytale that could never happen.

….. see more https://australianschooloftantra.com.au/?p=5214

Slow Sex

Slow Sex!  Slow down…!!!!!!!  yum… why be in such a hurry ??? Slow Sex and sacred sex | Are you in a Hurry | Are you feeling Rushed ? Why go too fast slow down and enjoy what you are rushing away from ? Are you focused on ‘cumming’, on doing it good, on doing it right ? Right for who ? for yourself, getting to the glorious destination! letting him or her know you are super sexy.  Perhaps you’re on fast bullet train but you arrive too early!

Slow Sex :  take a breath or two together, take a chance and feel the love from touch, scent, taste, sound, sight.

Take a risk and slow down, meet your partners gaze, open your eyes and say i love you, I love your scent!!! I love your taste !!! I love your touch and the feel of you… I love the sound of you!!! feel the connection, the melting of boundaries, are you ready not to go fasted but to explore deeper and wider, Tantra calls it expansion!! expansion beyond self, beyond the ordinary, and into each other, expansion beyond’ ‘me’ and ‘other’ into the unknown of ‘us’ and this is the unknown.. the adventure.

Slow Sex can be  the adventure into the beyond…

Many people ask me how to do this…??? May practice being ‘slow’ taking a slow walk, eating your breakfast or dinner and chewing each mouthful 50 times…

You may not have the time for this as you have so many things to do…Work, children, friends, DEVICES! However what is more important than sharing love and pleasures with your lover ?

For a start try a practice I call

Slow Sex and Drinking deeply

Move your thoughts to something you like, lose yourself in that sensation, breathe in and imagine your whole body as an extension of that pleasure.  Imagine your enjoyment is going into every cell of your body.  Think of moments of the “pleasure” being like droplets of water being absorbed by your entire body.  I call this drinking deeply of the experience…

Women’s Menopause Weekend Workshop

~ Living the Dance: using Arts Therapies to Enhance our Lives ~

Next event: Women’s Weekend Workshop

Moving Menopause:  Enhancing the Journey  

~ An open and heartful enquiry into the passage of menopause ~

 Utilising  a range of modalities such as naturally expressive movement and dance, pastels, clay,  writing, body-sense and mindfulness skills.

Saturday 17^th and Sunday 18^th October 2015

with Satyo Cate Sullivan at Leela Cottage, Robertson, Southern Highlands

Menopause is often a taboo topic or something to be dreaded and endured.  There is much more to it than that.  This workshop is about embracing menopause as a richly meaningful part of our lives, going beyond the myths and exploring its possibilities as a time of transformation.  Amidst the sometimes tumultuous changes new potentials can be born.  This weekend is for all women – younger women, those approaching, in the midst of, and those moving, or who have moved, beyond menopause. 

 More fully embracing and celebrating this life’s passage:

v  Enquire into themes such as:   Meaning and significance of this phase of life for you ~~  Completions and Openings  ~~  Self-care  ~~  The nitty gritty and the good bits  ~~  A time in life for YOU  ~~  Opportunities to release, renew, bring forth  ~~  Sexuality  ~~  Fresh beginnings   ~~  What is important now?  ~~

v  Experience:   A reshaping of the concept of menopause ~~  A deepening sense of what being in the feminine is about  ~~  A weekend of being richly companioned  ~~  Creative and rewarding explorations  ~~  A gathering of wisdom  ~~  Time out and space for you  ~~

v  Take away with you:   A new valuing of this part of your life’s journey  ~~  Your own wiser understandings ~~ An enhanced sense of who you are as a woman at this time of life  ~~  

About Satyo:  Satyo Cate Sullivan _{(BCA., MA (Cat). PACFA reg.)} works as a psychotherapist and creative arts/dance therapist in the Shoalhaven and Southern Highlands.

When:  Saturday 17^th October, 9.30 – 5.30pm and Sunday 18^th October, 9.30 – 4.30pm.  To Book: Full payment or 50% to C. Sullivan, BSB 062 585 Account no. 0022 1907.   Or send cheque to  C. Sullivan, PO Box 3381, Robertson, 2577   Maximum number in workshop – 8 women.   Price of Workshop: – $230   EARLY BIRD: $200 – received by October 2nd.    (One or two concession prices.)                                                   Enquiries and Bookings: Satyo on 0412 122010. Email: satyo@shoal.net.au   Website:  http://satyosullivan.com

Sydney Morning Herald Article

Tantra is quickly becoming accepted as a respected and useful philosophy as a tool to enhance relationships and sexuality. Tantric teachers Kerry and Diane Riley of the Australian School of Tantra were interviewed by the Sydney Morning Herald as Sydney’s leading authority on Tantra. Tantric teachers for many years, the Riley’s have a deep understanding of the concerns and pressures of modern relationship especially those living in the city.

‘Often people are having it all, demanding careers plus relationships and children! Tantric sexuality offers insights into the ‘man woman dynamic’ on an emotional and sexual level.’ explains Diane. ‘Tantric love emphasises daily connections, simple tantric harmonising processes for rebalancing libido and amplifying passion, at whatever age. Throw out the sexual enhancing drugs and try Tantra skills instead!’ Kerry encourages men of all ages 18 – 80 to exercise their PC muscles as the fundamental technique for life long sexual health. ‘Whether a man wants to learn ejaculation control or to strengthened his virility the PC muscle is important. Learn the tantric skills about this muscle and you will be able to make love for as long as you choose.

Kerry and Diane each tantra courses and workshops around Australia, in Perth, Sydney, Melbourne, and Byron Bay.

Their extensive and growing tantric educational books, videos, DVD’s and courses have proved to be authorative and of great value.

Article from The Australian

Tantric sex practices offer a variety of sexual styles, from the dynamic fast, often a form of the quickie, to the slow and sensual. Tantra encourages tantric lovers to expand their lovemaking and ask lovers to dialogue with each other and include new ways of lovemaking. The Sydney Australian interviewed Kerry and Diane Riley, founders of the Australian School of Tantra, in Sydney, about tantric sexuality in their issue “In Praise of Slow’ which is a world trend to find more enjoyment and peace in our frantic lives by consciously slowing down everyday tasks like cooking – slow cooking- and of course sex. Slow sex, imagine hours of sensual slow pleasure! Some would say yes!!! Others may think, it may be boring after 10 minutes. However tantra offers lovers many tantric skills and techniques to expand loving pleasure to become one of the richest sexual experience. Outlined below is a tantric practice, Karenza, add it to your tantric skills.

Do you feel in a hurry?

Slow Sex –
‘Keep attentive on the fire at the beginning and so continuing to avoid the embers at the end.’ Osho
Slowing down deepens connection Increases your capacity to love and be loved Focus on your breath, this keeps you in the moment.

More on Slow Sex

Try Karenza

Try being together in genital contact where there is no movement for fifteen to twenty minutes. Move only if the erection should slacken. The emphasis is on connecting lovingly; the mood is warm and tender. The trick here is to keep focusing your mind on the pleasure and, to feel this; there is no necessity to move. This method of lovemaking is sometimes called Karenza , which is an Italian word meaning caress. In Karenza, you are making love without an expectation, other than enjoyment, sharing and loving. The pressure for orgasm does not dictate the pace or the outcome of the lovemaking.