Slow Sex! Most reactions is hurry up! Get it off! No time to slow down. It may be the best gift to give to yourself and your lover.
Slow down…!!!!!!! yum… why be in such a hurry ??? Slow Sex and sacred sex | Are you in a Hurry | Are you feeling Rushed ? Why go too fast slow down and enjoy what you are rushing away from ? Are you focused on ‘cumming’, on doing it good, on doing it right ? Right for who ? for yourself, getting to the glorious destination! letting him or her know you are super sexy. Perhaps you’re on fast bullet train but you arrive too early!
Slow Sex : take a breath or two together, take a chance and feel the love from touch, scent, taste, sound, sight.
Take a risk and slow down, meet your partners gaze, open your eyes and say i love you, I love your scent!!! I love your taste !!! I love your touch and the feel of you… I love the sound of you!!! feel the connection, the melting of boundaries, are you ready not to go fasted but to explore deeper and wider, Tantra calls it expansion!! expansion beyond self, beyond the ordinary, and into each other, expansion beyond’ ‘me’ and ‘other’ into the unknown of ‘us’ and this is the unknown.. the adventure.
Many people ask me how to do this…??? May practice being ‘slow’ taking a slow walk, eating your breakfast or dinner and chewing each mouthful 50 times…
You may not have the time for this as you have so many things to do…Work, children, friends, DEVICES! However what is more important than sharing love and pleasures with your lover ?
For a start try a practice I call
Move your thoughts to something you like, lose yourself in that sensation, breathe in and imagine your whole body as an extension of that pleasure. Imagine your enjoyment is going into every cell of your body. Think of moments of the “pleasure” being like droplets of water being absorbed by your entire body. I call this drinking deeply of the experience…
What is it to explore and continue to find your own alone-ness?
Many people in relationship are trying to remain themselves. Both lovers are related and yet independent and hence often a struggle arise. They forget to discuss their values, aspirations and activities or ideas and may become resentful.
What can we do: Giving time, encouraging, letting go of the other.
Don’t be your partners missing piece, or them yours. LoveWorks Tantra sessions builds skills for intimacy and passion plus valuing and nurturing polarity. This maintains the space for the spark to be charged!
These are musings…
Skills to assist
Mindfulness and meditation
Authentic and respectful communication
Discussed values and boundaries
And sharing pleasures with your partner.
more to come…
Have you had enough of alienation, Has enough of wasting Love making time, Do you want some coaching to open and reignite a truly passionate love life?
Where is the human connection you really want ?
It’s interesting with us humans, that most of us are vulnerable to some for of addiction, whether mild or heavy duty which we try to ignore, or pass over as just a little or big indulgence.
And the easiness of wasting time and scrolling and looking at our screens for minutes, then then some how turn into hours.
We ignore what we waste our precious life on.
Most of us are aware of the dopamine reward cycle of face book and the reward of another like!!
Human Connection depends on the warmth of touch,
the sound or vibrations of voice,
the harmony of sharing breath.
these too, trigger dopamine, sooth our inner selves, help regular our hormornes, our sleep cycle, inspire and underwrite our well being.
Take the challenge and Ban you phones from the bedroom for a week.
Wake with just yourself to start the day. Asking yourself ‘what will the day bring you?’ “what can you bring to your day and your world?’
With your lover, in bed, take a few moments to eye gaze, and in your own ways say good morning!
By Lucy Fisher Featured writer for Australian School of Tantra ( with Diane Riley)
Dating Aps: As a single 30 – something woman looking for love, I can’t help but observe a rapidly changing climate in the dating aps world. Beneath the fun, frivolous, commitment free, variety filled veneer of modern dating, lies a darker reality of a growing epidemic. The expedient use of dating apps and social media portals is taking its toll on interpersonal relating in an alarmingly inconspicuous manner, well at least to the majority. The volume of choice and vast opportunity for fast, easy casual sex or even “sexting” is seeing a decline in foundational aspects of dating.
We have somehow managed to completely bypass the whole “getting to know you“ stage of meeting someone new, to the “dick pic” and “what are you wearing now “ phase . The great deficit in intimacy and connection that has become the new norm in dating protocol, isn’t just a frustrating side affect of the technological age of dating , but a detrimental one , resulting in the nullification of personal growth, mature communication and intimacy.! !
Although one could argue that casual dating isn’t anything new, it has definitely transcended to unparalleled heights of convenience, superficiality, disconnection and disposal, that arbours greater overall consequences than we really like to pay attention to. Sure, we are all busy, just trying to get our needs met and ticking it off on our “to do” list, right? but connections created immediacy, self satisfaction and convenience, leaves us soulfully, energetically and emotionally undernourished . This can be hard to detect in our day to day lives, as we heavily busy ourselves with endless distraction, avoiding any time and space in which we may actually stop, sit and reflect upon the needs of our hungry soul.! !
Jen Kim writes about how in modern dating life, we no longer have the feeling of scarcity, as there are always so many options at our fingertips. This doesn’t just make us picky, but arguably unreasonably so. “How quickly have we thumbed left simply because the face peering back at us had an eyebrow hair out of place or because the guy seemed short even though you could only see his head?” she writes. “How many amazing potential mates have we missed out on because we were convinced the next profile would be better?” In the end, attraction is about more than just a photo. It’s more than just an instant spark on a first date, or a Valentine’s Day card. Ultimately, while dating apps bring us closer to people we might not otherwise have met, the issues they cause paradoxically make it even more difficult to make a connection. To avoid falling in the maximising trap, if you think you’ve met someone and it could be something good, try and give it a fair chance. Otherwise you might be holding out for a fairytale that could never happen.
….. see more https://australianschooloftantra.com.au/?p=5214
Tantra Love is about expanding and deepening our life. Tantra is deepening connections to love, and our flow of love inwardly and outwardly. Tantra love encourages presence and conscious relating. Tantra love combines soulfulness, relationship and sexuality , and is a guide to live life passionately, with love and with presence.
Living with a tantric intention offers us opportunities to see ourselves, ( as we really are: the good, the bad and the ugly) so we can honour our imperfections, forgive ourselves and others and nurture and expand into our ‘higher Better versions of our selves’.
Australian School of Tantra offers Teacher Training plus Couples and Individual Coaching.
What does the ‘ A Taste of Love’ bring to you? Open your senses, relax and dive deeper into what delights your senses can offer your body. You can practice enjoying a Taste of Love.
We are often too busy to take a moment to sit and receive the bounties of our physical world can offer us with sight, taste, touch, smell and hearing which are the five basic senses. these can nurture us, delight us, surprise us, enrich us.
is it in your lovers kiss, your lovers skin, your lovers hair? Erotic love, intimate love.
Or what we can savour through the taste of love from our food. A special meal prepared by a loved one or friend.
come to a relaxing place within
bring your awareness closer in
take as long as you can and then even longer to open you month and to savour flavours
Practice Practice Practice! Enjoy, swallow, and savour the gifts and the experience!
Tantra Goddess for Women
Feminine essence is a potent transformative energy that flows
in a woman when her sexual and spiritual energies connect in a unified way. This is about the Tantra Goddess for women.
This essence has always been repressed and exploited for centuries. We are only aware of
a fraction of its potential.
When awakened, the tantra Goddess for women, it brings out the empowerer, the healer and
the “Goddess of Love” within a woman.
Long ago, ancient feminine wisdoms were passed down from woman to woman.
Do you want to have more Tantra Goddess empowerment in your life?
In certain ancient cultures, when a woman was in such a blissful state,
her sexuality was imbued with spirituality. It was considered a sacred
experience. In these times, feminine wisdom, including sexual knowledge,
was passed down in women’s places of learning, from one wise woman
to another. Until recently, this rich inheritance of knowledge and sexual
practices had been lost and suppressed and the sacred aspect of sex denied.
Read Sexy and Sacred, sexual secrets for women to empower your inner Tantra Goddess.
See these testimonials:
Deva Premal—Pabu Music
“Most of the texts on tantra and Taoist sexology focus on what the man can
do for sexual and spiritual enlightenment not the women! So it is refreshing
to finally have a book on sacred sex for women, what a woman can do to
enhance her sexual aliveness and pleasure on her spiritual path.”
Ellen Ramsdale—Co author ‘Sexual Energy Ecstasy’
“Sexy and sacred’, Diane explores the beauty, magic and sacredness of sex
in from a woman’s perspective. It is as a gift to readers and anyone they
share the knowledge with-their friends, their daughters , and their lovers.”
Jane Manning—Film Director
“Sexy and Sacred offers a unique insight into the world of sexuality and
spirituality and how these two worlds can be woven into our lives. This book
is a perfect companion book for women to ‘Sexual Secrets for Men’. Highly
recommended for anyone who wishes to deepen their path into spirit and sex.”
ABSORBING SHAKTI ENERGY
One of the least understood Tantric Secrets for Men is absorption of shakti energy, come along to the LoveWorks Tantra teacher training in Feb yet it is a subtle energy that you can pick up any time you are in the presence of a woman who is sexually aroused. Men may feel it but they don’t know what it is and have no idea how it can benefit them. If you are consciously aware of what shakti energy is, then that consciousness determines how you will use it. If you drink deeply of its energy, you will gain power.
… A conscious lover, aware of the power of the shakti energy, will drink deeply of that energy whenever he is in its presence. You should be especially aware at the point of orgasm because the room will fill with this magic energy. Look at your woman. Look how vital, and glowing she appears, flushed with the hormones, the energy, the juices that run through her body that can charge and empower you, fill you with creativity and energy. As she orgasms, breathe in deeply and absorb as much of the shakti as you can, then as you breathe out, imagine you are sending the energy back to her.
During orgasm the woman’s shakti energy is totally awakened, so use this time to tell her things that support her and her sexuality. At the point of orgasm or around that time, the woman is totally open to receiving imprints, things that you say to her. Never say anything that puts her down or makes her feel bad after orgasm because she is very open then. Utilise the time for healing. Say something about your love for her, how close you feel to her. Or use it as a time to override old patterns that she may have about the shape of her body or her sexual response.
Very often in day-to-day life your partner won’t really hear it when you say ‘I love your body,’ ‘I love your breasts’ or ‘I love the way you look.’ But in this open psychic state she has no choice. It will sink deeply into her subconscious and she will absorb it. So you can use this as a valuable healing time for your relationship.
It’s a great time to give your partner some positive conditioning in the area of her sexual loving. In ancient India women were taught positive connection with their sexuality. They were taught that with the shakti energy they could create harmony in themselves, in their family and in the world. Her subconscious may be impregnated with negative experiences, imprints that other men may have given her. Maybe she spent time with a man who never understood her sexually, just pounded away until he ejaculated. This builds up negative imprinting about sexuality and men in general. The point of her orgasm provides a great opportunity to heal some of this. In this way you are absorbing the shakti energy and sending energy back to her.
Extract from Sexual Secrets for Men p 172
When you learn tantric massage it has the potential for you to give your man more pleasure
than he has ever experienced before. He may have had a massage before,
but not like the one you are about to give him. Traditional masseurs avoid
our most pleasurable parts, but as a beloved you can learn tantric massage. But this time, the focus is on the whole of the
body and his wand of light is definitely part of that.
When you learn tantric massage your partner is going to love the experience. It will help shift the focus of his sexual experience from purely genital to an overall feeling of bliss on many levels. Not only will it be sensational for your partner, you will also thoroughly enjoy giving it. It will open you up to new experiences
because it will give you a sense of power. You will be orchestrating his
pleasure and initiating him into new areas of sexuality.
In ancient times, Aphrodite’s priestesses would welcome men
home from the ravages of war and, through similar practices, heal their
trauma and renew them, preparing them to re-enter civilised society once
more.When you learn tantric massage it helps charging in physical energy which
rushes pulsing through the body and revitalizes heart and mind.
First, set your bedroom ambiance: music, lighting, temperature and
refreshments. Be sure to reserve this time for his pleasure; let him relax; he
doesn’t have to do anything except receive your attention and your love.
For many men, to hear that all they need to do is to enjoy their woman’s
loving attention is a dream come true!
Chose your clothing as in supporting you being an ‘initiator’. For some
women, this can mean lacy underwear, for others it could be transparent
scarves and beads, for others still, maybe black leather.
Have massage oils prepared, a towel, warm water and, if you have one, a
massage table. Check to see you have everything ready so that you don’t
have to be distracted or keep getting up to find something.
After you learn tantric massage prepare your partner. Perhaps scrub his back in the bath and towel him
down. You could offer him his favourite food or drink and provide some…
From ‘Sexy and Sacred, sexual secrets for women’.. by Diane Riley