Slow Sex! Most reactions is hurry up! Get it off! No time to slow down. It may be the best gift to give to yourself and your lover.
Slow down…!!!!!!! yum… why be in such a hurry ??? Slow Sex and sacred sex | Are you in a Hurry | Are you feeling Rushed ? Why go too fast slow down and enjoy what you are rushing away from ? Are you focused on ‘cumming’, on doing it good, on doing it right ? Right for who ? for yourself, getting to the glorious destination! letting him or her know you are super sexy. Perhaps you’re on fast bullet train but you arrive too early!
Slow Sex : take a breath or two together, take a chance and feel the love from touch, scent, taste, sound, sight.
Take a risk and slow down, meet your partners gaze, open your eyes and say i love you, I love your scent!!! I love your taste !!! I love your touch and the feel of you… I love the sound of you!!! feel the connection, the melting of boundaries, are you ready not to go fasted but to explore deeper and wider, Tantra calls it expansion!! expansion beyond self, beyond the ordinary, and into each other, expansion beyond’ ‘me’ and ‘other’ into the unknown of ‘us’ and this is the unknown.. the adventure.
Many people ask me how to do this…??? May practice being ‘slow’ taking a slow walk, eating your breakfast or dinner and chewing each mouthful 50 times…
You may not have the time for this as you have so many things to do…Work, children, friends, DEVICES! However what is more important than sharing love and pleasures with your lover ?
For a start try a practice I call
Move your thoughts to something you like, lose yourself in that sensation, breathe in and imagine your whole body as an extension of that pleasure. Imagine your enjoyment is going into every cell of your body. Think of moments of the “pleasure” being like droplets of water being absorbed by your entire body. I call this drinking deeply of the experience…
Two weeks , two years , 2 decades and still going.
How long will love and passion last ?
What are the secrets of a passionate relationship that keeps the spark alive and sparkling for partners to feel desired appreciated and supported ?
How can we keep loving, engaging, changing, growing within a conscious relationship?
There are so many distractions, push and pulls, demands on time, resources and energies.
How do we changes thing up and up and recover from the lulls and troughs of relationship?
Do we want to bring our best self forward, to be grounded and authentic?
Or………after two weeks, two months, two years has the love and passion reduced to, a need for the ‘other’ to be more of what we want them to be, so that they fill more of our projections and expectations?
Have we got the skills of love and tool box to listen, to talk, to appreciate, to reflect, to communicate and to love…?
Many people, men and women ask me, ‘How can I give my lover the best pleasure, the most delicious pleasure ever?’
Whether lovers are new, or committed, young or older, or heterosexual or same gender, where do you start?
I suggest exploring methods and kinds various of pleasure sessions.
Learn more about the Art of Pleasure
Come to Byron Bay and have a Loveworks Tantra Lesson to by guided through how to give and receive a massage for pleasure and deep connection with your beloved.
Your intimate connection with a partner is not only a way to explore pleasure and love, it is also a way to find, and deepen your spiritual path.
It is valuable to set aside special times to treat your lovemaking as a spiritual practice.
Meditation, prayer, ritual and ceremony are common practices people use on a spiritual path and these can be combined into lovemaking by:
Creating the right attitude.
Plan with your partner : ‘Let’s make love as a meditation today.’
This creates the mind-set that everything you do in this particular session is for your spiritual growth.
Creating a special space, prepare and tidy the space perhaps by placing ritual objects on a small table nearbyflowers, incense, candles and other special objects of spiritual significance for you.
Sitting opposite each other and making a devotion.
This is like a prayer where you can say things such as
‘May our energy and intention of our lovemaking today be devoted to our bonding, understanding ourselves and each other. speaking words of kindness daily and frequently to each other,’
What ever is appropriate for you.
Discover more about Tantra as a spiritual path.
One of the common problems in relationships and partnership is that often partners feel they are not being appreciated enough for what they do, yet this is often because we forget to voice our appreciation of our partner.
Commonly, we do not realise that we get into the habit of finding what our partner does wrong.
If we stop and bring awareness to our communications it can be a rude surprise to acknowledge that we can put down partner, find fault, generalise in a mean and hurtful way.
We need to make it a daily practice to scan all the things our partner does, and let them know that we appreciate them
Often under appreciation grows into resentment and then a competition for power, a battle. As team-mates in love, partners, lovers should be empowering each other to feel good, but instead they often get into the habit of fault finding and then they only empower each other to feel bad.
This is when love not only turns sour … it goes rancid!
Better in life, not only business, the car, the house, but let’s look at the heart.
Why so many are suffering, experiencing a struggle in matters of the heart.
What can be simple to think and to say, instead of falling in automatic regressive patterns that degrade the quality of life.
Here we are in 2020 and so many of us have been exposed to mindfulness, we may taking moments in nature to sustain and replenish ourselves and yet relationships and families are in crisis.
This is what the Loveworks Program offers ways of moving forward and relearning love and sustaining love through the hard times.
What is it to explore and continue to find your own alone-ness?
Many people in relationship are trying to remain themselves. Both lovers are related and yet independent and hence often a struggle arise. They forget to discuss their values, aspirations and activities or ideas and may become resentful.
What can we do: Giving time, encouraging, letting go of the other.
Don’t be your partners missing piece, or them yours. LoveWorks Tantra sessions builds skills for intimacy and passion plus valuing and nurturing polarity. This maintains the space for the spark to be charged!
These are musings…
Skills to assist
Mindfulness and meditation
Authentic and respectful communication
Discussed values and boundaries
And sharing pleasures with your partner.
more to come…
By Lucy Fisher Featured writer for Australian School of Tantra ( with Diane Riley)
Dating Aps: As a single 30 – something woman looking for love, I can’t help but observe a rapidly changing climate in the dating aps world. Beneath the fun, frivolous, commitment free, variety filled veneer of modern dating, lies a darker reality of a growing epidemic. The expedient use of dating apps and social media portals is taking its toll on interpersonal relating in an alarmingly inconspicuous manner, well at least to the majority. The volume of choice and vast opportunity for fast, easy casual sex or even “sexting” is seeing a decline in foundational aspects of dating.
We have somehow managed to completely bypass the whole “getting to know you“ stage of meeting someone new, to the “dick pic” and “what are you wearing now “ phase . The great deficit in intimacy and connection that has become the new norm in dating protocol, isn’t just a frustrating side affect of the technological age of dating , but a detrimental one , resulting in the nullification of personal growth, mature communication and intimacy.! !
Although one could argue that casual dating isn’t anything new, it has definitely transcended to unparalleled heights of convenience, superficiality, disconnection and disposal, that arbours greater overall consequences than we really like to pay attention to. Sure, we are all busy, just trying to get our needs met and ticking it off on our “to do” list, right? but connections created immediacy, self satisfaction and convenience, leaves us soulfully, energetically and emotionally undernourished . This can be hard to detect in our day to day lives, as we heavily busy ourselves with endless distraction, avoiding any time and space in which we may actually stop, sit and reflect upon the needs of our hungry soul.! !
Jen Kim writes about how in modern dating life, we no longer have the feeling of scarcity, as there are always so many options at our fingertips. This doesn’t just make us picky, but arguably unreasonably so. “How quickly have we thumbed left simply because the face peering back at us had an eyebrow hair out of place or because the guy seemed short even though you could only see his head?” she writes. “How many amazing potential mates have we missed out on because we were convinced the next profile would be better?” In the end, attraction is about more than just a photo. It’s more than just an instant spark on a first date, or a Valentine’s Day card. Ultimately, while dating apps bring us closer to people we might not otherwise have met, the issues they cause paradoxically make it even more difficult to make a connection. To avoid falling in the maximising trap, if you think you’ve met someone and it could be something good, try and give it a fair chance. Otherwise you might be holding out for a fairytale that could never happen.
….. see more https://australianschooloftantra.com.au/?p=5214
Tantra Love is about expanding and deepening our life. Tantra is deepening connections to love, and our flow of love inwardly and outwardly. Tantra love encourages presence and conscious relating. Tantra love combines soulfulness, relationship and sexuality , and is a guide to live life passionately, with love and with presence.
Living with a tantric intention offers us opportunities to see ourselves, ( as we really are: the good, the bad and the ugly) so we can honour our imperfections, forgive ourselves and others and nurture and expand into our ‘higher Better versions of our selves’.
Australian School of Tantra offers Teacher Training plus Couples and Individual Coaching.
What does the ‘ A Taste of Love’ bring to you? Open your senses, relax and dive deeper into what delights your senses can offer your body. You can practice enjoying a Taste of Love.
We are often too busy to take a moment to sit and receive the bounties of our physical world can offer us with sight, taste, touch, smell and hearing which are the five basic senses. these can nurture us, delight us, surprise us, enrich us.
is it in your lovers kiss, your lovers skin, your lovers hair? Erotic love, intimate love.
Or what we can savour through the taste of love from our food. A special meal prepared by a loved one or friend.
come to a relaxing place within
bring your awareness closer in
take as long as you can and then even longer to open you month and to savour flavours
Practice Practice Practice! Enjoy, swallow, and savour the gifts and the experience!
ABSORBING SHAKTI ENERGY
One of the least understood Tantric Secrets for Men is absorption of shakti energy, come along to the LoveWorks Tantra teacher training in Feb yet it is a subtle energy that you can pick up any time you are in the presence of a woman who is sexually aroused. Men may feel it but they don’t know what it is and have no idea how it can benefit them. If you are consciously aware of what shakti energy is, then that consciousness determines how you will use it. If you drink deeply of its energy, you will gain power.
… A conscious lover, aware of the power of the shakti energy, will drink deeply of that energy whenever he is in its presence. You should be especially aware at the point of orgasm because the room will fill with this magic energy. Look at your woman. Look how vital, and glowing she appears, flushed with the hormones, the energy, the juices that run through her body that can charge and empower you, fill you with creativity and energy. As she orgasms, breathe in deeply and absorb as much of the shakti as you can, then as you breathe out, imagine you are sending the energy back to her.
During orgasm the woman’s shakti energy is totally awakened, so use this time to tell her things that support her and her sexuality. At the point of orgasm or around that time, the woman is totally open to receiving imprints, things that you say to her. Never say anything that puts her down or makes her feel bad after orgasm because she is very open then. Utilise the time for healing. Say something about your love for her, how close you feel to her. Or use it as a time to override old patterns that she may have about the shape of her body or her sexual response.
Very often in day-to-day life your partner won’t really hear it when you say ‘I love your body,’ ‘I love your breasts’ or ‘I love the way you look.’ But in this open psychic state she has no choice. It will sink deeply into her subconscious and she will absorb it. So you can use this as a valuable healing time for your relationship.
It’s a great time to give your partner some positive conditioning in the area of her sexual loving. In ancient India women were taught positive connection with their sexuality. They were taught that with the shakti energy they could create harmony in themselves, in their family and in the world. Her subconscious may be impregnated with negative experiences, imprints that other men may have given her. Maybe she spent time with a man who never understood her sexually, just pounded away until he ejaculated. This builds up negative imprinting about sexuality and men in general. The point of her orgasm provides a great opportunity to heal some of this. In this way you are absorbing the shakti energy and sending energy back to her.
Extract from Sexual Secrets for Men p 172