Tantra is often Taboo

September 08, 2017

Indian journalist Spriha Srivastava interviewed Diane Riley for the Sunday Indian times. Sacred love versus pure sex;

tantra is often taboo

Tantra is often taboo !

because people don’t understand it. People
usually project their thoughts and fantasies in Tantra
and think that’s what it is. And when you speak of Tantra is often taboo. And that is why they tend to misunderstand
it. Tantra in its purest sense is sexuality and love, and
exploring it emotionally, physically
and spiritually. It’s about being at your highest, purest
and most authentic self. People usually fail to understand the
ritual or practice of love-making as it was in the ancient Hindu
culture. So what people understand,
very wrongly, is that it’s an orgy or free sex or partner swapping. Tantra, in fact, helps one in working on one’s relationship. The initial reactions to Tantra When I first introduced Tantra to people 35 years ago, they would not even understand why I wanted to talk about sexuality and spirituality in the same breath? Neighbours were very suspicious that I was running a brothel in the suburbs, people I met in the neighbourhood thought we were kinky and subversive. People would think that sexuality just belongs to your physical body and spirituality belongs to the soul. That was 35 years ago! Now views have changed a lot, but with some it has not! More People realize the benefits of tantric principles to help in their relationship and to bring closeness, emotionally. It helps discover more sensual pleasures with one’s partner. Tantra can mean many things to different people. For myself I didn’t want to explore Tantra in the swinging style. I wanted to explore deep and connected intimate love through Tantra. I would urge people to explore themselves and their relationship further’. I haven’t seen people stay together who are into swinging . When people go to swinging parties, I think it’s more to do with making a statement that I’m going to let go of my fears and explore sexuality; I’m going to let go of my cultural pre-disposition or what my mom and dad have taught me. And it’s alright to go and explore these things, but deeper relationships are disadvantaged with swinging.
It’s for people who want to explore such a thing and want to experiment. It’s not for those who want a partner for a journey through life. Swinging is
similar to group sex, it can be arousing, breaking down belief systems, an adventure. Tantra, sacred sexuality, on the other hand, can be about exploring sex with your partner. Well, that doesn’t mean that one can’t have thoughts about someone else. But Tantra helps one realize those thoughts as your own desire and then channelize it to use that sexual energy with your own partner. It’s about enhancing your sexual feelings and reaching a spiritual level. So if it’s emotional satisfaction that one needs then Tantra is the way. ”
Tantra sex consultant ,
Diane Riley tells Spriha Srivastava
the sunday indian 54 7 march
c o v e r s t o r y

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I am worried that attending a private couples coaching session will be more confronting than a couples workshop, is this true?

No, The sessions are conducted in a casual professional setting, our practitioners are sensitive to the needs of both partners. The sessions are non-confrontational, clothed and tailored to your individual needs as a couple. Many couples actually find the private sessions less confrontational than attending a workshop.
Will we need to be naked, or in sexual positions in the session?

No, the sessions are conducted fully clothed. The tantra practitioner may put you and your partner into various sexual positions in the sessions to demonstrate some of the key practices for you to practise at home.
How long are the sessions, and how many sessions do you recommend, What is the cost?

The sessions are 1hour 45 minutes in length, and it entirely depends on the couple and why they are seeking the coaching as to how many sessions are recommended. Ie. If a couple is just coming for curiosity, have a good sex life etc. then maybe only 1-2 sessions are required to teach the major practices. However if the couple have differences in libido, lost the spark in their relationship, or other sexual or communication difficulties, we would recommend 3-4 sessions. The cost is $285.00 per session.
Do we have to be in a long term relationship to benefit from these sessions?

No, our practitioners see young couples who have only been together for a couple of months as well as couples who have been married for many years and are much older. Tantra benefits couples of any age group, and stage of relationship.
My partner and I have not practised Tantra, Yoga or meditation before, will these sessions still be of use to us?

Yes, the principles of Tantra are universal, you do not have to have studied any oriental arts to benefit from the sessions. Kerry and Diane’s work in bringing Tantra to Australia over the past 30 years, has enabled them to devise practises that are applicable and practical for the ‘normal modern couple’, their wealth of experience with talking with thousands of people about Tantra has enabled them to develop a program to teach Tantra to couples in an effective way that gets results and some remarkable outcomes – please read our testimonials.