Two weeks , two years , 2 decades and still going.
How long will love and passion last ?
What are the secrets of a passionate relationship that keeps the spark alive and sparkling for partners to feel desired appreciated and supported ?
How can we keep loving, engaging, changing, growing within a conscious relationship?
There are so many distractions, push and pulls, demands on time, resources and energies.
How do we changes thing up and up and recover from the lulls and troughs of relationship?
Do we want to bring our best self forward, to be grounded and authentic?
Or………after two weeks, two months, two years has the love and passion reduced to, a need for the ‘other’ to be more of what we want them to be, so that they fill more of our projections and expectations?
Have we got the skills of love and tool box to listen, to talk, to appreciate, to reflect, to communicate and to love…?
My Mum teaches Tantra!
What did you say, when young adults, to the question ‘What does you mum do?’.
Apart form all the regular answers of what mums do for their families? Many may ask, ‘Does she work?
My daughters would say ‘She teachers tantra?”, and remember this was quite a few years ago.
Responses varied…’What?’ ‘What is Tantra?’ ‘Did you say tantrum?’
Then curious friends quizzed further.. “Are your parents Por. no stars?’ or are they like the Fockers?
and lots of other question ensued. They answered mum talks about Aphrodite and Venus ‘ the Greek and Roman goddesses ‘ of love.
Not only the some friends but then many of their parents!!
Talking about positive physical intimacy was and still carries stigma!
To the credit of my beloved , then as older teenage children, now adults they have been very supportive,
and in fact occasionally assist with workshops and events that support about healthy ways to support love and passion in
adult life and in relationships. About experiencing a heart felt connections with the one you love.
So many of the couples I have coached over the years say to me ‘this has been a game changer’,
‘these perspectives and skills I’ve put into place and are so very helpful, I wish I knew this when I was young’.
How do we keep passion, presence and love alive. How do we continue to sustain and thrive in love,
while doing the dishes, making the bed, paying the bills, going to work, having a family, being in the community in a way that we can make a positive difference?
These are vital questions?
Maybe …We are so intentional with business, making money, superannuation, saving, planning social and business events. I have found being intentional with love, with appreciation, with kindness, even if its twice a day. 5 mins twice a day! Can make a difference to my mind set as well as those close to me.