What is Tantric sex?
Tantra is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence, very similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female energies to create harmony and have an ultimate goal of unity or spiritual ecstasy, known as enlightenment. Tantra encourages one to explore every aspect of life. So obviously the study of sexuality was included, not only included but in fact revered.
Tantric sexuality making love was seen as a gift to God. So there was no repression or guilt attached to sex. It taught that when a man approaches his beloved he should have a sacred feeling as if he were going into a temple. The art of sexual love was the noblest of arts to study. As a young person in ancient India you could go to the sacred temples and be taught lovemaking secrets by Dakas and Dakinis, the priests and priestesses of love. The study of sexuality in the west is very new, whereas relics of Tantric rituals date back nearly five thousand years. So there is an incredible
Why does making sex sacred improve it?
Part of sacred sex is being in the present moment, more and more people know that being in the present moment is the ‘now ‘ is a spiritual state, and that enhances everything in life so if we can experience sexuality – the methods of tantra that we teach can assist to get into the present. So just focusing on the breath is powerful to bring your focus to a state of beingness- with no other thou
How do you make a sacred time and space for sex?
To do something in daily life, such as ‘Daily devotion’ which is an ancient Chinese Taoist practice that we were introduced to by Dr Stephen Chang. Kerry and I write about it on both our books- ‘Sexual secrets for men” from a man’s perspective and in my book ‘sexy and sacred, sexual secrets for women’ from a women’s perspective.
What are some of the benefits for couples of practicing tantric sex?
Tantric lovemaking can add to the ways you make love in 3 major areas:
Firstly: It gives you ways to reach heightened states of ecstasy and pleasure beyond the realms of normal sex;
Secondly: It teaches you ways to open to more love so that your heart opens even more to your partner and you remember how great it feels to be deeply, passionately “in love.”
Thirdly it teaches Sacred Sex- ways to transform your lovemaking into a sacred experience which will touch you on every level of your being, body, heart and soul
What’s involved in a tantric sex workshop?
After teaching workshop for 20 years we have trained tantric teachers who have lessons for individuals and for couples.
Sessions are very respectful of individual needs and circumstance.
Session 1 comprises of 90 minutes of training in tantric breath work, creating a sacred space, pelvic control, Yabyum postures, daily devotion & tantric heart connection techniques.
Can a single person learn about tantric sex and use it, even if they have no steady partner? What’s the benefit for a single?
Single men learn skills to ejaculation control = pc muscle- and spread sexual energy throughout their body-
Women can learn skills to enhance and deepen their pleasure. Thereby keeping sensuality alive in their lives and keeping their deep feminine core alive and attractive.
We are all sexual beings from birth, whether we are sexual or not.
Many times in people’s lives they do not have a regular sexual partner. And may not have intercourse. However learning how to enhance your own pleasure is great for wellbeing
Diane you’ve written a book, Sexy and Sacred, for women to learn to nurture their sacred sexiness within – what stops women from feeling sexual and sexy and what can she do to enhance her sexuality?
These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure. PC muscle is great for sexual wellbeing a increasing their orgasmic pleasure
You’ve also both co-authored the internationally successful book, Sexual Secrets for Men – What Every Woman would want her man to know…. so what are some of the secrets?
What’s your number one piece of advice when it comes to love and sex for my listeners?
Keep sex high priority whatever their age, for younger people as well as couples who have been together for a longer time.