By Diane Riley (Founder Australian School of Tantra)
Aphrodite also known as the ‘golden goddess’, not only because of her beauty, but also because she radiated love and sensuality. This ‘golden glow of Aphrodite’, is a description of a love that is pure, a love not tainted by the desires of the ego or games of power.
It is, instead, a love that springs from a woman’s true sexual essence. Aphrodite did not exploit love for her own ego or for power and money.
Like a glorious sun, she shone down upon their culture and blessed it with the arts of sculpture, poetry and music. Nothing delights her more than the gratification of the senses by beautiful means.
Aphrodite often reveals herself to us when we first are in love and thereafter every time we have a sensual experience. Most young women experience the ‘golden glow of Aphrodite’ when they feel the early flush of love, holding hands with, or kissing a boyfriend.
Aphrodite was considered virginal, even though she had many lovers and, clearly, this had nothing to do with a physical state, but more with her inner attitude. Aphrodite is a woman who is true to herself, to her own intuition and emotions, not reliant on the approval of others. She enjoys sensuality for its own sake, and when she shares an experience of lovemaking, it is for the celebration of the divine energy of passion and attraction. (It is not for the manipulative games and trade-offs that so often happen within modern realtionships.)
I used to share a joke with my teenage daughters and some of their friends, telling them that even though I had three children, I was a virgin! They thought I was a little strange, but humoured me. I would explain that my sexuality belonged to me, not someone else, and told them what ‘virgin’ could also mean. I encouraged them to talk about the notion that their sexuality belonged to them, making it clear that virginity didn’t necessarily have anything to do with whether they had had sex or not. Rather, it was about sex being their choice, and not something they were pressured or obligated to do. They could follow their inner guidance. Belong to no man! I encouraged the idea that our sexuality belongs to ourselves, for now, and forever. (Diane Riley – Sexy and Sacred)
MEN DONT WASTE YOUR TIME AND ENERGY WISHING YOUR WOMAN BEHAVES DIFFERENTLY
WOMEN ATTRACT BY NATURE!!!
You may laugh, but a lot of men don’t get it! That while women can operate very much like men in the workplace, in roles as leaders, negotiators and managers, in relationships women are often very different to men. Men love the difference and that’s why they are so attracted in the first place. However after a few months or years of relationship disharmony and conflict creeps in and can lead a man to think that his partner is ALIEN!
One significant reason why your partner might get upset is that you don’t give her enough loving attention. She might feel that her attractiveness is not being appreciated.
Understanding this may help you to stop arguing when, for example, your partner spends lots of money on things that you don’t feel is necessary. There is no use rationalising and arguing that she buys something new for your home, or a new dress or shoes are a waste of good money.
She is not interested; she does not hear you. It is as though you are communicating with an alien. Indeed, it has helped me considerably in my relationship to accept that in some ways women are aliens. They often have different priorities.
If I look at it this way, then my partner’s behaviour does not always have to make sense to me. It’s a great relief because I used to spend a lot of time trying to figure women out.
Female behaviour does not have to make sense to a man.
For example on a practical level, some women will want to buy a new outfit and shoes whenever there’s a special occasion coming up. Women always seem to be buying shoes anyway, even when there isn’t any special event on the horizon! You may reason: she’s got plenty of clothes, so why can’t she just be like you simply put on her best shirt or jacket. It doesn’t make sense! If she was more like you she won’t spend as much money!
Just remember that it’s okay because she’s an alien, and that’s what these aliens do! If you don’t believe that feeling attractive is a big issue for women, then test it out by forgetting to comment when your partner buys some new clothes or goes to the hairdresser. Better still, tell her she wasted her money and the hairstyle doesn’t suit her. Then watch what happens for the next few days.
You partner will often interpret and approach situations very differently to you, whether this is a social, family, medical, educational, recreational or sexual.
Don’t look at the differences between men and women as a problem. The trick here is don’t try to understand why, or always try to change her mind. The key is to look at them as an opportunity to expand the ways you communicate your presence and your loving attention. Be creative and find ways of acknowledging her attractiveness, whether that is by appreciating her appeance, her creativity, her skills or her core nature.
When I bring flowers home for Diane, when I tell her I love her again and again in different ways, even though she already knows it, I am empowered, I feel good every time.
You can choose to see difference as an opportunity rather than as a problem, a possibility for you both to win and feel good in your relationship.
By Kerry Riley
